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Love Hurts?

Still on the Valentine’s mood, I was compelled to write this while reminiscing the frustration of some friends of mine. If we could enumerate the main false beliefs that people hold about love, maybe the ones that cause the majority of the rants are:

1) To love is to do unconditionally all wishes of the beloved person. Losing love fears have a lot of potential to turn love into game, and after the pampering and the damage done we cynically take our partners as villains when in the truth, we did the mistakes. Okay, it take guts, but simply giving all away is a disaster as the same way when we pamper the children.

2) Love should be easy, simple, it isn’t needed to show the right path and eventual hatred is a sign of failure. Unfortunately, when we love to some extent we are like islands and our partners, in their minds, even with the best of their intentions take decisions on the everyday life that hurt us and they will keep doing that until we stop, sit a while and tell them our anguish. On a first moment we get some bitter taste that doesn’t go away until we talk that in an honest manner.

3) “Love” and friendship should not merge. That’s the dynamic of infatuation, where lust and desperation drive us. I’m not saying that physical attraction should not take an important share of the balance, but friendship is the element of the long-lasting relationships, bringing fun, interchange and bridges the path to the different worlds.

4) Excessive jealousy means care. BULLSHIT. This is like a cancer or a time bomb that kills a lot of couples with a lot of potential. It’s an ill hard to cure. If one of the two persons behaves this way, better jump out of the boat at least to keep a decent friendship.

5) To love is to trust that the beloved’s intuition should discover all your wishes. No way. Apple still didn’t make the magic iCrystalBall and two persons with low communication are doomed to a path of fear and resentments. It has a lot do with friendship and the talk is the fuel to renew and take new starts on the halfway. It is a dynamic that can to avoid those eventual breaks that people take to reconsider and try again.